THE PACIFIER FAIRY IS COMING! FAREWELL TO THE PACIFIER: HOW TO BEST LEAVE IT BEHIND
Small children love their pacifier. This is not surprising, because sucking is a natural need for a baby. It’s an innate reflex. Stopping its use can therefore be a difficult process. And yet, the pacifier must go away. But how? And when? These tips will help you prepare your child gradually for the final separation.
It takes time to wean your child from the pacifier. Although orthodontists and dentists recommend separating around the second year of age, there is no perfect time for this farewell. Paediatricians and child psychologists are of the opinion that, from the perspective of the psychological development of children, you can wait up to four years. Only at this age, in fact, are children ready and able to console themselves in other ways.
And it is precisely in times full of novelty or emotions, such as moving house, a separation or the birth of a baby brother, that the pacifier has a soothing effect. If the conditions are in place to bid farewell to the pacifier, you should begin to address the subject tactfully and gradually. You and the child can then slowly get used to the new situation.
Goodbye pacifier: so that the farewell is not a trauma
At the beginning, just a few simple rules: to play, talk and romp around, the pacifier isn't needed. But to comfort, or when the child is tired or even to help fall asleep, the pacifier is allowed. To prevent these stages from lasting too long, it’s best not to leave it around. If the child sees it, he will have it in his mouth in a second. The less time spent sucking on the pacifier, the less time it will take to wean the child of it.
A favourite teddy bear or other toys may accompany and comfort during the process. If every now and then, throughout the day, he runs into difficulty, offer him some dried fruit or raw vegetable or fruit. A carrot, an apple or a piece of cucumber are good for sucking and licking. All Lidl stores offer fresh fruits and vegetables. In the evening, after he’s asleep, you can take the pacifier out of his mouth. At the beginning leave it nearby. With time, place it further and further away. Maybe one day it will disappear from the cot ...
Ready for the big day - 3 tips for a goodbye without trauma
If a child wants to leave the pacifier voluntarily, then it is appropriate to celebrate with a nice farewell ritual. A final farewell is not an easy step and it is worthy of our attention.
1 - The pacifier fairy
The pacifier fairy is a ritual that comes from the USA. The pacifier fairy grants, in return for the pacifier, a wish of the child’s. Decide with your child a precise day on which to perform the ritual. Even one week in advance, so that you can prepare for the event. Remind him often about the pacifier fairy and together count how many days are left. When the appointed day arrives, put the pacifier on the windowsill or in front of the door. The next morning it will have disappeared without leaving a trace. In its place there will be a beautiful gift. A toy car, a doll or a ticket to go to the zoo. Let the child express his or her wish.
2 - The pacifier tree
If you don't know what to make of the pacifier fairy, then maybe you can opt for the Danish tradition of the pacifier tree. In public gardens, or in particular playgrounds, trees are decorated with many colours. These are pacifier trees. Pacifiers that are no longer needed are hung on the tree. For children, it is motivating to see that many others have done it.
3 - The “farewell to the pacifier” party
Major events should be celebrated: organize a family party to celebrate the farewell to the pacifier. All those who want to personally say goodbye are warmly invited. Allow the child to wrap the dear companion in wrapping paper or in a special box. Moreover, this is a special day for the pacifier now that it has completed its job. Once packaged, the pacifier will be handed over to Mom, Dad or grandparents, or even to another person chosen beforehand. The small gift is taken away from the room. In return, a wish is granted. This gift is an expression of thanks that the child makes to the pacifier for the beautiful time spent together.